Before having the twins I was overcome with fear! I spent my whole life preparing and planning for the worst and I thought it was healthy! I thought this will help me ALWAYS be ready when something goes wrong… What I didn’t realize was that I was attracting that negative energy and unintentionally setting myself up to fail. Then, when I did fail or something did go wrong I would say “see I knew I would” or “good thing I was prepared for…” Since having my kids I have forever changed! Wanting to be the best role model for them and be the best mother I can be I knew I had to be more confident! I just didn’t know how!
Since becoming a Beachbody coach I unintentionally changed my mindset! I made a physical goal for myself and was determined to achieve it. My goal was to Lose 20 pounds and fit into my clothes. I just DECIDED I had to. I had to really dig deep and push myself. I have had to give myself pep talks and give my other coaches and clients pep talks to push themselves. I wanted to lead by example so sometimes I had to adopt the mentality “fake it until you make it.” Well, once I achieved my initial physical goals, I made new physical goals and kept that cycle going! I recently realized that my confidence in my physical ability has gone through the roof! I have never EVER been confident when it came to my appearance or physical ability! Now I know if I put my mind to something and I decide I am going to do something that I will achieve it! I don’t say “my goal is to lose 20 pounds but if I can’t then my goal will be to lose 5 pounds” or “I will do a half marathon but if I can’t I will stop and walk out of the race.”
I heard in a podcast by Chalene Johnson that one way to build inner confidence is to start with a physical transformation. It’s hard to change your mindset. We all can fake it. Let’s face it, most of us do fake it at some point. A physical transformation is something tangible. It’s something we can control by deciding and committing to something. Once you set a physical goal to finish a fitness program, do 5 push-ups, run a marathon, whatever that goal is and you complete it, you feel proud and confident.That confidence grows and you start sharing that with others around you. I started thinking about how much I have grown since becoming a coach and reaching my physical goals. It’s made me see that I AM capable, I DO know what I am doing, I AM inspiring people, I CAN succeed if I put my mind to it. I don’t have to plan for the worst! I can be confident that everything WILL WORK out!
I still have some work to do in other areas of my life but that little physical transformation/goal to lose 20 pounds has given me the confidence to push forward and reach for other goals I didn’t even know I had. I am now making goals for myself that the old me would have never even dreamt of. Dreams that seemed impossible before. I hope that I can pass this on to my kids rather than the self doubt and fear I had before.
Do you struggle with confidence? Do you have some goals that seem impossible? Do you have a physical goal you can start with to help you build that confidence?? Comment below or send me a message at firstname.lastname@example.org or use the links on this page to find and follow me on Facebook! I would be happy to share how I got to this point and help you get here too!